An open letter to my next date. Things I learned from my first date.
Date a friend. Although I despise guys make sure I like them back before they pursue, for me it’s more effective if you be my friend first. As a girl, I’m more comfortable with the familiar. If you can give me disinterested friendship, even more points for you.
Know how to keep a conversation. I’m an introvert, so I’m not afraid of silence, but initiate conversation. Be curious. Ask questions. Get to know me. Pay attention to what interests me. Comment on the surroundings. Talk to others around us; engage us and connect us.
Be vulnerable. Tell me about yourself. I want to understand what your like and who you are. I likely I haven’t heard all your stories yet, so it’s all fresh and new to me.
Be interesting. Read. Travel. Educate your self. If you don’t have stories to tell, conversation will be hard.
Have a dream. Talk to God about what his calling for your life is. Prepare yourself for it.
Be passionate. Find something that interests you and get involved.
Be confident. Don’t smother our date with nervous apologies. Don’t expect the worst. Enjoy yourself. Relax. Don’t freak out because I seem disinterested or distracted it might not apply to you. Give me my space, if I need it.
Don’t freak out if things don’t work out. Just because I don’t want another date doesn’t mean I hate you. Chill. Don’t worry about what you could have done or should have done and be thankful for the time we spent together, then give me some space so I can make sure I’m not leading you on.